Lifestyles for Better Living

Facts About Conquering Worry

Worrying Is Life's Biggest Villain

Worrying may be man's biggest 'natural' enemy since doctors discovered stress. Stress is a physiological response to anything that threatens a person -- mentally, emotionally, or physically. Worry actually causes people stress, and it also creates emotional baggage that prevents people from thinking clearly.

Worrying also has a profound negative impact on a person's ability to solve problems. When people are worried, they lose their objectivity and their ability to logically resolve their own personal issues. Negative thinking ensues and eventually, they become so engrossed in gloom-and-doom thinking that they're unable to act upon their problems.

The first thing that you have to realize about worrying is that it is a choice, not inevitability. Some people think that worry comes naturally when you have problems. That's not true. You worry because you choose to be worried.

You worry because you consciously choose to become a worried person. You also choose to invest energy, time, and emotion in worrying. Worrying is distinct from active problem solving. You are never close to solving a problem just by worrying about it. In fact, you stray further from the solution to your problem because your logic and imagination mingle when you engage in gloom-and-doom thinking.

The more you worry, the more you attract negative thoughts. Negative thoughts can drain you and can plunge you deep into despair. Why put yourself through all this trouble if you can wipe out worrying completely from your life?

Only the Present Day Matters.

Too often, people feel depressed and anxious because they think of the past and the future too much. Nothing could be more counterproductive than worrying about past events and problems in the future. So right now, I want you to imagine yourself standing in front of three doorways.

These three doorways represent the past, the present, and the future. You live in the present - not in the past or in the unforeseen future. The past is capable of burying events by itself; it does not require your help. So take a good look at your past for the last time and close the door. Put a large padlock on this door because you will no longer dwell within the dark and cold spaces of the past.

Turn your attention to the third doorway. This is the cavern of the future. Within its cold recesses are images that may enchant or frighten you. These images, if they come true, do not belong to you or anyone else living in the present. These visions of the future belong to the future alone, for they have not been born into the present.

Close the door of the future and put a padlock on it, too. From now on, you will no longer be preoccupied with chasing these images from the future, because you are now too busy managing the present.

Now open the middle door. This is the door of the present. This is your home, and this is where you will now focus all your time and energies - because this is the living person's abode.

Beat Worrying in Just Three Steps.

Ending worry is not a complicated matter. In fact, I have three steps that will help you conquer worry easily. And the best thing about my technique is that you will end worry and solve problems at the same time. Conquering worry is an exercise in emotional control and problem solving; the more you practice worry control or 'worry busting,' the more efficiently you will be able to solve problems, too.
  1. The first step is to analyze your situation. Break down the components of your current situation or problem so your situation will be more manageable. What is the actual problem? Why is this problem here in the first place? Be realistic. If the problem is really severe, list the potential consequences of your situation. Write down both the least that could happen and the worst-case scenario based on sound, rational thinking. Don't go overboard with the worst-case scenario part of your analysis.
  2. The next step is acceptance. If you can't do anything about a problem, there is no real reason to worry. Anxiety is reserved for problems that are solvable. If something is hurtling toward you because of factors that are beyond your control, it's time to relax and free yourself from worry. Accept the inevitable and move on.
  3. The third step is improvement. Whatever happens after the problem, learn to work with what you have so you can improve your life situation.

Remember, this is just one problem and once you are able to survive it, you will definitely become stronger in the future.

For more information, pick up the Nook version of“How To Stop Worrying“ at Barns and Noble.

  You can also buy the PDF.


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